When You Don't Want To Have Sex

Oprah had a doctor on yesterday who was talking about why women don't have time for sex. Having been in many long term relationships over my lifetime, I can tell you that the reason women don't have time for sex is because they're not turned on by their man.

There was only one man I dated, Elvis, who constantly turned me on. I spent years in other relationships not wanting to fuck the guy. Ever. One dumped me because of it, although I never told him that I didn't want to have sex with him, it just became evident when I came up with twenty million excuses. I spent 3 years with him. WHAT THE FUCK?

Women have other issues at play in relationships. It's safe, you're not alone, he can mow the lawn. I sold out because he could use power tools? God help me.

Yeah, this is all about sex. For him.

If someone isn't looking at you this way, get the hell out.

After I was with Elvis I realized I never wanted to have sex with any of the men I'd been with before him. The problem with finding that kind of chemistry is that it's hard to find it again. If any guy out there is reading this and believes the I Have A Headache Line, run for the exit. She's really not into you. At all. And it ain't gonna change back. Ever. And for all those people who say that relationships aren't ALL about sex, psychologists tell us it isn't all there is but if you're not having regular sex, that's a telltale sign that something is wrong.

Women are too lazy to leave, don't want to lose his paycheck, feel bad because of the kids? Trust me, these women will find it somewhere else. My mother was not happy in her marriage and eventually the excuses gave way to sleeping in another room and back aches and other lies. She and my father never had one argument. NEVER a good sign. My sister and I urged her to leave the marriage since she was so unhappy. She always said, "Well, you girls....." like we were the reason she stayed even though we begged her to leave. She eventually moved to our apartment in Paris and still my parents didn't divorce. If only they'd known how unhappy they made their children.

This does not look good.

All that time Mom was having an emotional affair with a man she met in France when my sister and I were teenagers. It was only when my dad went to a high school reunion and met another woman that he finally asked for a divorce. Why waste your life like that? Is it better to settle or is it better to get out and try and find some happiness with someone you are attracted to? Mom eventually married the French man but Jesus, take your time why don't you?

So cheating on her.

End of chat.